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Couples therapy

Relationships tend to bring up our deepest longings and insecurities. And so issues often have a heightened emotional intensity that can make us feel truly stuck and overwhelmed.

I offer a safe space where couples can have important conversations that may feel too risky to have on their own. And the skills to talk in more constructive ways that bring about resolution and positive change.

Difficulties I work with:

Communication
Having difficult conversations and problem-solving
Exploring and resolving conflict
Emotional and sexual intimacy
Recovering from infidelity
Commitment and trust issues
Navigating challenging times
Relational and power dynamics

My philosophy:

Shared responsibility – I believe that relationship dynamics are co-created as the distinct personalities of both partners come into contact. I therefore support everyone in the relationship to reflect on what they bring to it and their influence on dynamics, emphasising agency and choice.
‘I’m Ok, You’re OK’ – therapy does not seek to assign blame but to understand and address empathetically what each partner may need and find difficult in relationship. At a time when it may be difficult to access hope and compassion, I help couples to deepen their understanding and empathy for each other, so they feel more able to work as a team in working through the issue.

Regardless of the specific challenge that brings you to therapy, in my experience couples often leave therapy with vastly expanded communication and relational skills which gives them a solid foundation for a stronger, more intimate and satisfying relationship.

Developing emotional intelligence through ability to name and express feelings in a non-defensive way
Deep listening skills
Ability to understand and respond more empathetically to our partner and others
Better understanding of the feelings, thoughts and beliefs that drive our behaviours in relationship - leading to better choices
Better understanding and control over our unconscious defences - how we tend to protect ourselves when we feel vulnerable with others and finding healthier alternatives
Ability to regulate and co-regulate difficult emotions so we can have difficult conversations from a more grounded place
Problem solving skills
Ability to repair relational rupture and recover from them
Being more available for emotional and physical connection

Transactional Analysis

Transactional Analysis (TA) is a model of psychotherapy that aims to explore the origins of our patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour. TA is particularly well suited for couples therapy because it offers a behavioural and communication model to understand what happens in communication: what's going on beneath the surface for each partner? why do we say and act the way we do? how do our words and actions impact the other and what dynamics may arise from this? TA breaks down communication into its component parts ('transactions') giving you accessible language and tools to understand what happens as you relate with each other.

Practical information:

£110 (per 60min session)

Weekly session, same day & time

Tools & activities to practice at home

Acerca de

Couples therapy

Developing emotional intelligence through ability to name and express feelings in a non-defensive way

Deep listening skills

Ability to understand and respond more empathetically to our partner and others

Better understanding of the feelings, thoughts and beliefs that drive our behaviours in relationship - leading to better choices

Better understanding and control over our unconscious defences - how we tend to protect ourselves when we feel vulnerable with others and finding healthier alternatives

Ability to regulate and co-regulate difficult emotions so we can have difficult conversations from a more grounded place

Problem solving skills

Transactional Analysis

Contact me

deliana.ianeva@gmail.com