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Holding Hands

Finding new ways
in relationships

We're wired for connection from birth. But we can sometimes struggle with intimacy as adults.
How does it become so difficult to express our true self and needs to another?

Puzzled by why the same difficulties keep cropping up in relationships?

 

Perhaps you’re good at looking after other people but struggle when it comes to getting your own needs met.

 

Maybe you feel uncomfortable and tend to withdraw when anyone tries to get close. Or can’t help but lash out when you feel challenged.

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This workshop is a two-day exploration, supporting you to uncover and work through the things you find most challenging about being in relationship with others, and with yourself.

It will introduce ideas from the Transactional Analysis school of psychotherapy, using everyday language, to help us understand what underlies why we think, feel and behave as we do in relationships.

 

Exploring your thoughts and feelings in a confidential small-group setting (4-6 participants), you will be guided to unpack any repeating struggles in relationships and consider healthier alternatives. 

When Recurring event taking place on multiple weekends in 2024. Saturday and Sunday, 9.30am - 5.30pm. Contact us to enquire about forthcoming dates.

Where The Therapeutic Rooms, Shoreditch E1 6RU, London

Price £180 (total for both days)

Who is this event for Adults aged 18 or over. Please note that this is a space for individual reflection, and is not intended for couples to attend together.

Book a place email deliana.ianeva@gmail.com or chris.elcombe@outlook.com 

Some of the things we will look at:
 

  • The early influences that shape how we relate with others and ourselves

  • Identifying the feelings, thoughts and beliefs that drive our behaviours in relationship

  • Getting to know our unconscious defences - how we tend to protect ourselves when we feel vulnerable with others

  • Unpacking relational dynamics - some of the unhelpful patterns that we may get stuck in and finding a way out

  • Understanding our feelings - developing emotional intelligence by learning to recognise and communicate difficult emotions constructively 

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Day 1

LOOKING INWARD:
OUR INNER EXPERIENCE

The legacy of our formative early relationships

Relationship 'scripts' - the stories and beliefs we hold about ourselves and others. How we understand and practice intimacy and closeness

The roles and 'modes' we interact from

Understanding and communicating our feelings.
How we relate with our own feelings and the feelings of others.  

 

Day 2

BEING WITH OTHERS: RELATIONAL DYNAMICS

What happens when our 'stories' and defences meet those of another 

'Drama triangle' and 'shame loops' - co-created stuckness and communication breakdowns

From drama to dialogue  

What is Transactional Analysis? Transactional Analysis (TA) is a model of psychotherapy that aims to explore the origins of our patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour. TA focuses on building awareness and empathic understanding of how and why we came to be the way we are. This can enable us to consider new ways of relating with ourselves and others, increasing our capacity for intimacy and autonomy.

The transformational power of human connection Being in a group can evoke our earliest insecurities. This is why we limit the size of our workshop group to 4-6 participants in order to create a safe and supportive environment in which we can attend to everyone's feelings and needs. Whilst understandably many participants feel daunted at first, they often leave feeling that their interaction with the group - both offering to and receiving from others - has been the most impactful aspect of their experience. Sharing your feelings and reflections can give you new perspectives, the empathy of those who struggle in similar ways, diverse input and support. The new ways of being with others that you can trial in a professionally facilitated group, can be a deeply transformative and healing experience. As facilitators, we place great emphasis on attending to boundaries and exchanges in the group, in order to hold all participants safely and make the most of opportunities to learn from each other. We respect everyone's autonomy to choose how much they feel ready and willing to share.    

About the facilitators

Deliana Ianeva and Chris Elcombe are qualified psychotherapists registered with the UK Council for Psychotherapy. They work in private practice in East and South East London following experience in the NHS and charity sector.

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